I approach counseling from a systemic perspective. That means that when I do couple's counseling, I view my client as the couple's relationship. I am not looking for which individual is to blame. I am looking for patterns in the relationship that prevent closeness and connection. Therefore, the conversations have direction and purpose. I direct a process where the three of us together figure out what has happened to prevent the closeness, how to heal from past hurts and how to create a relationship you both want.
If your partner is hesitant to come to counseling, it’s important you are very direct with them about how serious you view your relationship problems, especially if you have been considering breaking up, separation or divorce. Don’t wait until bitterness and resentment destroy all desire you have to work on the marriage. If your partner has concerns or questions about me or counseling, I encourage them to call me directly. I’m more than happy to speak with prospective clients and answer any of their questions.